The Most Important Word
Written by Aziza founder, Laila Ghattas
IThe dominant word in my mind these last months is deceptively simple.
This word is the new lens out of which I look at the world and reflect on my inner life.
When I’m off in foul mood, or doubtful about choices, this word comes to my mind to consider for guidance. It is my new life compass.
ALIGNMENT is my word of choice. It’s an emotional, spiritual and intellectual compass by which to live.
In some dictionaries
Alignment can mean:
However I’m applying it as a question and as an intention. It is what I want to achieve in relationship between my HIGHER SELF and my self: The former is the part of me that is connected to the Universe (God, Source, Divine Energy, Flow etc), connected to a greater wisdom that reflects Truth rather than perception, attitude or judgment.
The paradox in this reference to alignment as the external, the Higher Self, is it is in fact within me and you. Not external at all, although often it can be perceived as separate.
Different from definition 2. & 3.- we’re not talking about getting along with a group, or even another as a demonstration of successful alignment. It’s about you and you. Or YOU and you. ME and me. Mike Myers might quip, Big me and Mini me.
When I’m out of alignment with my Higher Self, it’s easier to feel self doubt, low esteem, confusion, being stuck or trapped, lack of confidence, anxiety. When I’m out of alignment with the Universe, I’m more prone to judgment, impatience, discouragement, worry. These experiences are my cues that I’ve taken a turn away from my inner compass. It’s how I know I’m out of alignment.
Other clues are a nagging feeling something is wrong, just doesn’t feel correct. This feeling can be directed at a relationship, a job, a vacation choice, a social commitment. Moving towards or maintaining that direction just doesn’t feel good. You are uneasy, unsettled. That can indicate the choice is out of alignment with your Inner Self and Truth.
Sometimes a tweak can be all that’s needed. Sometimes a departure from the plan. I can say from experience it ain’t easy to leave the norm, the familiar or the externally approved choice to move towards alignment with my true Correct expression.
When I’m aligned with my Truth, I feel calm, quiet, content enough with my life. I’ve made crazy decisions, really risky seemingly reckless choices that left me still totally calm inside. And they always worked out. Like starting my own company right after 9/11. The free fall wasn’t necessarily fun, and yet I always landed on firmer ground.
Last spring I came across an opportunity to join a mastermind group lead by women entrepreneurs I respect. I’d just come back from Bali and this conference was another trip, more expenses, extra time away from home. Yet I simply knew I had to go.
The brand new career path introduced into my consciousness that weekend by the talented Intuitive Business Coach, Lee Milteer, inspired satisfying and exciting opportunities that will make sound business sense as I evolve the idea. I also met some fabulous women I’m still in touch with.
The same month I also discovered another opportunity to meet a new tribe of people in the Caribbean later in the fall. Again, more expenses and time away. Didn’t make logical sense, yet the choice was aligned with my Truth. I was at peace with my decision.
Not only did I make meaningful new friendships at Awesomeness Fest, this also turned into a profitable and exciting choice. My world blew open with unimaginable creative entrepreneurial breadth of experience, advise and models.
My experience since last year was the evolution of my relationship with what it is to consciously choose to be aligned with the Greater Whole. All my decisions made no sense in the practical world beforehand. They were expensive and risky. Yet all paid off in ways I COULD NOT HAVE IMAGINED. My entire world expanded and opened up inside and out.
The lovely thing is with relentless examples of what it is to be aligned when I listen and follow that guidance, it’s easier to continue in this paradigm in a world delightfully yet overwhelmingly cluttered with endless opportunities.
I don’t necessarily understand why I’m doing something beforehand. Certainly I sometimes question the wisdom of the investment if I stray out of alignment after the decision is made. But now I have empirical data of how amazing life can be when I notice I’m out of sync, intentionally return to centre and then watch for the inspiration to reveal itself.
How do I get realigned when I’m out of sorts? Usually I light incense that has been blessed by a Balinese Shaman. Or put on soothing music. Sometimes I ask for help in the form of prayer. Sometimes I allow myself a little squirt- I cry out my emotions and release them from my body. A hot scented bath provides a nurturing space to reflect. Sometimes I call a friend, or read something lovely on FB. Other times I’ll write out my doubts in my journal and in the letting go I inevitably gain clarity. Listing things I’m grateful for or appreciate also help me shift back to the truth that my life works out. Sometimes the situation requires I do all of the above.
Mysteriously, nothing external needs to change in order to feel better.
The more and more often I am aligned, the less tolerance I have for feeling badly, or out of alignment. This way of life motivates its own continuation. That is not to say I have to feel positive all the time!! Our emotions inform us of very important things that need attention. I simply don’t accept that the harder feelings need to be the norm or the place from which I make a decision.
And when I trip, I simply move the energy. Pick myself up, dust myself off.
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