THREE MASSIVE MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE IN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS
Written by Aziza founder, Laila Ghattas
Over the years couples have been coming to Aziza Healing Adventures for relationship support. A few common themes have emerged.
Although men have their own assumptions to overcome, it's what's on a woman's mind that we explore today.
Below are 3 MASSIVE MISTAKES most women in committed relationships make that keep them feeling discouraged, disconnected and wondering where the LOVE went.
Perhaps you're thinking, "Wait a minute, how can that be? It's all HIS fault! Always!"
3. Sorry to say, that's the third biggest mistake: Thinking it's all his fault, brooding if only he would change X Y Z, wishing if only he'd do A B C, then you'd be happy again.
It takes two. When you hold yourself accountable for your contribution to a situation, when you recognize your insistence that things get done in a certain way (read YOUR way), or if you just relax your tendency to boss and criticize, when you shift from mom roll to adult partner and speak from that grounded place, then you've overcome this hurdle.
SPEAK! Say what you need, express how you feel, demonstrate what you want, what you'd prefer was different. He can't read your mind no matter how much you posture, sulk, hint, or worse, remain chilly in silence till he figures it out.
Nope, if you want to free yourself from that rut, release him from the impossible roll of mind reader. Let him hear your words. Let him know. Then watch the magic.
1. The #1 BIGGEST mistake most women in committed relationships make is not realizing that old patterns, unconscious patterns learned in childhood from their parents about relating, these blueprints are being played out in each and every adult relationship.
No matter how much you vowed not to be like your mom or dad, unless you've had a good exploratory review of your past roots, these scenarios are playing out.
Your intolerance of X, your pain over Y, your sensitivity to Z, these are all laid out in your unconscious relationship blueprint. Wait, there's hope!!
When you become conscious of your patterns, then you can stop the madness. You can choose an alternative. You can live in this moment and not be reactive to an old one. It's called FREEDOM. To BE. YOU.
Freedom to live
authentically and truthfully in your relationship, and build lasting
bridges back to each other.
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